Marriage is an important phase of life. According to Scriptures, marriage is one of the important aspects of life that contributes to the prosperity of society and clan. According to Vedic astrology, the planet Venus and Jupiter play a significant role when a marriage is concerned.
Depending on the cultures different countries have different ways of choosing their life partners to bind themselves in the institution of marriage. In India, marriages are like festive occasions and are celebrated with extensive decorations, colors, music, dance, costumes, and rituals. We would analyze the current situation in India for the various astrological problems concerned with the delay in marriage, problems in the marriages and their astrological remedies.
According to marriage statistics, more than 10 million couples get married in India every year, of which about 80% are Hindu weddings. The wedding industry in India has significantly grown to 45%. In India majority of the marriages are arranged marriage and partners and relatives decide on a life partner that they deem suitable for their child.
Even at present, around 85% Indians prefer to marry boy or girl chosen by their families, rather than choosing their life partners themselves depending upon various social and traditional factors.
Arranged relational unions in India are protracted procedures, where settling the ideal match may take months and even years. In commonly arranged marriages, the guardians choose each aspect of the procedure and decide the prearranged date of marriage according to planetary positions and calendar.
There are several factors and filters that are taken into account before marriage to make the right match. These criteria may include religion, caste, culture, education, financial status, horoscope, appearance and professional stature.
Horoscope matching is important and often considered the necessary part of the arranged marriage process. Horoscope refers to the birth or natal charts of an individual based on the birth details and planet positions. It generally holds important life predictions as well as describes the individual’s character based on the positions of astrological bodies in specific positions. In India, it is believed that the horoscope holds the key to every important event of an individual’s life and Vedic Astrology is followed as the preferred method.
Due to certain criteria and the pursuit of the right match may often cause the delay in marriages. Nowadays, the average age of girl which was 21-25 few decades back has risen up to 28-33 or even more in few cases in India. According to the released data from Sample Registration System (SRS) list, the average age of women in India has risen up significantly.
According to New Census data released by the government has indicated that there has been an increase in the median age of people at the time of marriage. IHDS data shows that there have been increasing proportions of women that are now delaying marriages. As of 2011-12, almost 41% of the married women in the age group of 15-32 years, i.e., the generation born after 1980, were married between 16 and 18 years of age. Over 24% of women in this age group were married between 19 and 21 years of age, and only 11.5% were married between 22 and 25 years. There are many reasons for delaying the marriages which are listed below:
- Misconception or dilemma about marriage
- Over Choosy
- Family Responsibility
- Financial Difficulties
- Physical or Health Issues
- Difference in social stature
- Caste and religion issues
- Astrological Problems - Mangal Dosha, Kundali Matching, Other Dosha
- Lifestyle Choices
Problems caused due to Delay in Marriage
Risks of infertility and other pregnancy problems
Age is a very important criterion for women, especially for conception. Delayed age greatly affects the fertility of a woman, reducing the possibility of conception. According to the study of Advanced Fertility Center, Chicago, 1 in every 4 women is infertile by the age of 35. Based on the study, the rate of pregnancy declines gradually in the 30’s and is more substantial during the late 30’s and 40’s. Very few women stay fertile at the age of 45.
Today, a huge number of couples are fighting infertility due to their age. The number of childless couples is increasing every day. According to a survey, in the mid-1990s, only 13 percent of all married couples aging between 35 and 45 had no kids. But today, the number has increased by almost 40 percent which is quite shocking.
Benefits of Delay In Marriage
Once you choose to get married at a later age, you indirectly choose to delay the rewards of marriage. For instance, you find your soul-mate later; find love and a faithful sexual partner later, etc.
When you get married, your partner helps you get economically settled. You invest more in your savings and get extremely relaxed financially and economically.
Some other benefits are
Faithful sexual partner
Sharing mutual interests
Pooling economic resources
Social approval for "settling down"
Becoming a part of something larger than self
Health advantages of being married
The health of married individuals is better than those who are singles. The strength of wedded people is superior to anything the individuals who are singles. After marriage, you get cherished by your accomplice and have a decent money related and enthusiastic help. This helps keep you rationally settled and thus far from well-being conditions, for example, despondency, heart conditions, and so on. Conversely, single people, dowagers, and divorced people remain alone and experience the ill effects of a scope of well-being conditions.
Marriage is a sacred bond which creates the relationship as wife and husband between two different sexes. Marriages are made in heaven. It is the destiny that acts between the wife and husband to live long together with happiness or unhappiness. Sometimes, the wedlock breaks at the initial stage or after some years. In some cases, the individuals live without marriage at all.
What are the factors responsible?
The individual horoscopes will reveal them. The astrologer can indicate in a way, what will take place in future, but what else, except the Almighty can say with certainty what will definitely happen.
Presently let us talk about, quickly a few things that astrologically focuses on marriage in the Horoscope of people. The planet Venus, who is karaka for marriage; the seventh, second, fourth, fifth, and the eighth lords are in charge of marriage life. Other than this, the arrangement of different planets and the parts of the planets to the above houses are to be examined. Marriages may be early, late or denial. Early marriage is possible in the following cases:
- The 7th lord should be in Kendra or trikona with the constellation of benefic planets.
- The 7th house should be aspected by benefic planets and no papakartari yoga is present.
- Venus should be well placed in Kendra and trikona in the star of the benefic planet. Venus should not be in the company of malefic planets.
- Lagna lord should be strong or aspected to the 7th house.
- The placement of benefic planets in the 7th house.
- The 2nd house should be free from affliction and with benefit rays.
- The 4th, for happiness, 5th for children, and 12th for bed comforts. So the lords of these houses should be free from afflictions.
The late relational unions may happen where there is a slight malefic impact to the seventh house, seventh master, and Venus other than having benefit impacts to the above which supersede malefic impacts.
Disavowal of marriage is conceivable where there is a solid malefic impact to the seventh house, seventh master, Venus, second house, and second ruler. Break in wedlock is conceivable despite the fact that there are benefic positions for marriage, the malefic impacts win progressively and supersede the benefic impacts. This prompts separation or passing of the accomplice. We can't intricate unless the individual horoscopes are being contemplated extravagantly and choose the outcome.
The 8th house denotes longevity of the natives. In the case of female horoscopes, if there are benefices in the 8th house or aspect by the benefic planets to the 8th house would confer soubhagyam which means the wife predeceased her husband. The reverse is the case for opposite results.
Mars or Mangal Dosha: This is a vital angle to be considered while choosing the conjugal prospects. Mars dosha happens where Mars is put in the second or fourth, or seventh, or eighth, or twelfth houses from ascendant or Moon, or Venus. While coordinating the horoscopes of the male and female, on the off chance that one of them is having Mars dosha marriage ought not to be performed. In the event that both are having Mars dosha, marriage can be performed by the quality of the same. There are a few special cases of the management and the same is expressed beneath.
Diverse great writings expressed distinctive special cases and in some cases negate each other. In the wake of investigating numerous horoscopes, the accompanying is to be considered while coordinating horoscopes.
In the event that there is any conjunction with or aspected by Jupiter, or benefic Mercury or waxing Moon to the Mars. For Cancer and Leo ascendants there is not Mars Dosha.
For Aries and Scorpio lagnas 4th Mars, for Taurus and Libra lagnas 12th Mars, for Gemini and Virgo lagnas 2nd Mars, for Capricorn and Cancer lagnas 7th Mars, for Sagittarius and Pisces lagna 8th Mars, for Aquarius and Leo lagnas no dosha wherever Mars is situated.
There is a saying that for Aries, Cancer, Leo, Scorpio, Sagittarius, and Pisces lagnas no mars dosha.
When Mars is in movable sign, no Mars dosha exists.
There are controversial astrological works between Jataka Chandrika, Naradeeyam, and Kalidasa. Further, no mention about Mars dosha has been given in any standard works of ancient origin like Parsara Hora, Phaladeepika, Brihat jataka, Jataka Parijatha, Jatakalankara, Satya Charya’s, Pancha Siddhanta etc. Hence too much emphasis need not be given to Mars Dosha. It is the astrologer who has to go deep into the strength of other planets besides the position of Mars in the horoscope and judge the influence of Mars on the individual.
Mars and Saturn: The planets Mars and Saturn are foes. These two planets make ruin in regard of wedded life. The mix of Mars and Saturn in any house is undesirable particularly in the places of lagna, second, fourth, seventh, eighth, and twelfth houses. It is likewise undesirable to have Mars and Saturn in edges to each other. Their angle to each other likewise makes misery in wedded life. In the above cases, where if unsullied benefics like Jupiter, Venus, and waxing Moon are in conjunction with Mars and Saturn or perspective to Mars and Saturn will moderate the awful impacts to some degree.
Other than the over, the seventh master ought not to be in the underhanded places of third, sixth, eighth, and twelfth. Venus ought to likewise be free from distress. Mars and Venus's blend is awful for conjugal satisfaction since Mars is searing planet and Venus is a watery planet. Both are adversaries, they make over sex and partition on the off chance that they are not related to benefic planets. For data purpose, we outfit here for the benefic and malefic planets.
Benefic Planets: Jupiter, Venus, waxing Moon, unsullied Mercury, and useful benefic.
Malefic Planets: Sun, Mars, Saturn, Rahu, Kethu, winding down Moon, and practical malefics
Other than this, the planets who claim awful houses like third, sixth, eighth, and twelfth
It is attractive to have a conjunction of the seventh master with karaka Venus in any house. Be that as it may, please take note of that on account of Taurus and Libra langnas the seventh master is Mars and his relationship with Venus is not awful as he happens to be the lagna ruler.
Rahu in the seventh house makes demise or separation to the life partner unless he is the star of benefic planet or in conjunction with benefic planets or aspected by benefic planets. Second marriage ought to be anticipated just if karaka Venus is not solid and very much set in the horoscope with benefic planets organization or angle.
At long last, coordinating the horoscope of kid and a young lady is essential before continuing for marriage.
There is large sum of people who have faith in astrology and who want to look out for an astrological solution for their problem. For them, it would be reasonably appropriate to know that there are certain gemstones that are helpful to endow marital bliss in a relation.
Depending upon the horoscope and planetary placements, the gemstones that are useful for the problems related to marriage of delay in the marriages are ;
Diamond is ruled by the planet Venus and Venus are considered to be the lord of love and romance. If there is a delay in marriages a diamond stone recommended by an astrologer can help to reduce the malefic effects of the venus. If Venus is afflicted in the 7th House due to to the conjunction of Rahu, Mars, Ketu, Moon, the Sun or Saturn, one will be highly benefited and will lead a life full of conjugal bliss, provided he wears the Diamond or its substitute opal. The auspicious results will further be multiplied in regard to the children, comfort, luxury, happiness, and fame in addition to conjugal bliss, if the ascendant is Aquarius, Capricorn, where Venus happens to be a Yoga Karaka.
Ruby is considered to be a gemstone of love. Ruby should be worn if the 7th lord is the Sun. It strengthens the Sun and thus removes the conflicts and obstacles that arise due to problems regarding the 7th house.
Blue Sapphire will be useful for the persons born in the Taurus, Libra, Capricorn, and Aquarius. Blue Sapphire Gemstone for Happy Marriage Ascendant, provided Saturn is well placed in the 3rd, 6ths, 10th or 11th House etc to nullify the adversity and to get the best result of Saturn. For Scorpio ascendant, Moon happens to be the 9th lord and if placed in the 7th House under any aspect or conjunction of any malefic planet, the Pearl would be suggested to get a beautiful wife, early marriage, and happy married life.
Wearing Pukhraj (Yellow Sapphire) is not always beneficial. This is universally taken for granted that Pukhraj will be useful, for all females alike or if they are facing problems in the marriage. If Libra or Taurus is the ascendant and Jupiter occupies the 6th, 8th or 12th House, Pukhraj should not be suggested. Yellow Sapphire is also a great Gemstone for harmony, cooperation, love and longevity of marriage and should be used by married females for Saubhagya. It also provides peace and balance in interpersonal relationships.
Emerald is a stone, which is worn to make the Mercury strong. Mercury is the significator of the brain, intelligence, and illegitimate marriages. The affliction of Mercury creates havoc in a marriage. Mercury also plays a vital role in performing more than one marriage. Many times there is a secret affair and illegitimate children, where it is afflicted, in regard to concerning houses. It may also be noted that Emerald must not be worn by newly married couples as it brings impotence.